From Performative Dating to Authentic Companionship

Traditional dating freaks me the fuck out.

Two people putting on an act to please the other in hopes of getting what they want in return.

And by chance, if they do actually get what they want… the manipulative courting processes transitions into a relationship built on performance.

Which usually mimics whatever was learned from movies or tv shows (mad corny).

And if you become too comfortable in this type of relationship, then your life becomes the sitcom.

“What’s bothering you my dear?”

“Tell me you love me.”

“I love you.”

“Call me 5x a day so I know you love me.”

“I love you.”

“Spoil me like a princess.”

“Ok.”

“Tell me you love me damnit!”

“I love you.”

“I hate chu.”

Then one day, someone snaps.

It’s no wonder the divorce rate is so high.

All of this can be prevented with intentional and honest communication from the beginning.

But it still doesn’t happen.

The reality is people know what they want, but have been conditioned to ask for permission.

Societal norms + modern dating culture has silenced your voice before you can even say hello.

Once you stop seeking permission for your desires, it all comes to you. 

Like magic.

Don’t try to convince your partner. 

Speak your desires from the beginning.

You’ll turn many people away, but you’ll attract the ones you want.

And the ones who want you.

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